We often find ourselves making comments about the people around us. Yet, few people actually tell a person to their face what’s up. Have we become such a self centered, don’t make waves, don’t be the loose nail society that we just don’t care about others anymore?

Absolutely, we don’t want to go around telling people everything we think of them. But when a group of people allow one individual to be so unhappy, so miserable, so stuck in a hole, never saying anything…that is wrong.

In my new family, there is one woman who has the potential to be a very strong person. Yet, everyone around her allows her to be unhappy and manipulative. In her unhappiness, she manipulates those around her with her anger, sadness, and psychological weaknesses. She often uses those who care for her like tools for her own benefit, rarely saying thank you or appreciating what they do. Instead, she will often make a snide comment about what they have done, or point out how it could have helped her better. She rarely takes on the responsibility of her children, calling on others to help her. Yet, she will turn around and use her children like tools in a game with those who care about them.

So, anyone who knows me knows that I am all about women. My politics is feminism. I’m not right or left, I’m feminist. I work to empower women to be the strongest, most capable person they can.

I saw what this woman was doing, and it made me so frustrated to see how everyone around her allowed her to stay unhappy and weak. I refused. At one point, she tried her manipulation on me, and I countered.

I told her that everyone around her allowed her to be unhappy and manipulative. I said that I could help her find the happiness within herself, but that I would not take her BS. I told her that she could be happy, but that she had to decide that. I never used an angry tone, but voiced this out of compassion.

Of course, she hasn’t appreciated yet what I’ve said, but a couple of people she forwarded the information to told me that they were glad that someone stood up and said something to her. I also spent a long time chanting for her true happiness, and I plan on continuing to work to encourage her to become happy.

So my point is, how many of you let women (or others) around you be unhappy because you’re scared to say something or don’t want to make waves? How many of us let people sit in a pit of darkness because we don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings? Are you really helping or keeping them sitting in a life of hell?